What being vulnerable really means.

Vulnerability isn’t weakness; it’s the only way we can become truly strong and authentic in everything we do — our relationships, work, and life in general.

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There’s no such thing as perfect.

I thought that in order to be ‘strong’ I had to be perfect and bulletproof, but these two seductive concepts do not exist in the human experience.

The uncomfortable truth is that in order to truly engage with others and with the world, you have to expose yourself emotionally or, as Rene Brown puts it, dare to show up and let yourself be seen.

With that, of course, comes a possibility of hurt, rejection, and failure.

Vulnerability vs. Self-exposure.

I used to think of vulnerability as a very self-destructive concept; I thought that opening yourself to others was like giving them a perfect opportunity to hit you exactly where it hurts.

And those people showed me that only through daring to become truly vulnerable, we can build real, lasting connections.

You are worthy.

I used to think that I have to do something special to deserve to be loved, respected, accepted; and the few times someone didn’t show me love, respect, or acceptance, I would blame myself for it and turn it into a belief: there must be something wrong about me.

You can search the entire universe and never find a single being more worthy of love than you.

This, of course, doesn’t give you the permission to be a shitty human; but it helps reconcile with instances when your vulnerability isn’t met with respect and care.

Becoming Real.

I start all my yoga classes with a quote that deeply moved me that week. Last week, it was a quote from a children’s book by Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit. It very beautifully summarises what being Wholehearted — or healthily vulnerable — really means.

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Agnieszka Zbieranska

Agnieszka Zbieranska

Business Psychologist, Life Coach & NLP Practitioner, 200hr Yoga Teacher. A firm believer that we can all be better than ‘ok’, in every area of our lives.