The (sober) struggle is real.

Here me and Drew trying to pretend that ginger beer and lemonade are fine substitutes for beer and wine, respectively… It’s a hard thing to do when your (ginger) beer can is smaller than your portable phone charger.
  1. DO NOT avoid social situations:
    Why isolate yourself from people, only because you’re not drinking? No point in making yourself even more miserable ;) . Tell your friends about your temporary abstinence —we’re all adults now and it’s really unlikely that anyone is going to nag you to drink with them or ostracise you simply because you’re not drinking. The reverse is more likely — most people will support and admire you, and some might even join you! I was really surprised how many people decided to join me this February without me even trying to convince them, and every time I went out with a ‘drinker’ they bought a non-alcoholic beverage to show their solidarity.
  2. Try various ‘virgin’ cocktails & nonalcoholic drinks:
    I find it SO sad to be drinking sparkling water in a cool bar when everyone enjoys their Mojitos and Pina Coladas… so I found myself drinking their ‘virgin’ versions, finding them surprisingly satisfying. Add to it a pleasant placebo-tipsiness effect associated with the act of drinking a cocktail in a fancy bar, minus the headache, and you’ve got a recipe for a great night out.
    Also, me and my friend discovered that non-alcoholic wine fromWhole Foods Market tastes like Kirsch Royale (Prosecco with Chambord black raspberry liqueur) and makes you feel funky-funky like the real thing. Again, thank Heavens for the placebo effect!
    Side note: the WFM Prisecco is more expensive than decent Rioja, but hey, you cannot put a price tag on health!
  3. Distract yourself and tackle the reason why you’re compelled to drink in the first place.
    I am a hopeless case of a couch-wine-drinker who enjoys a glass of red at the end of the day (or with dinner) at home, so I had an additional habit to silence here.
Perhaps celebrate the post V-Day weekend with a glass of heart-pink, guilt-free PriSecco — too much alcohol is bad for your libido anyway!



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Agnieszka Zbieranska

Agnieszka Zbieranska

Business Psychologist, Life Coach & NLP Practitioner, 200hr Yoga Teacher. A firm believer that we can all be better than ‘ok’, in every area of our lives.