The only thing I want to do before turning thirty.

But the truth is that the world couldn’t care less about how I spend the last year of my twenties. Those who love me — and those are the only people that truly matter — care about one thing only: for me to be happy and let them partake in my happiness.

And with years, as my personality became more defined and circumstances more unique to me, this has become a bit of a chore.

All in all, we all want to belong and feel accepted, and — you know — just be “normal”.

Authenticity is taking that one extra conscious step toward aligning everything we do — as much as possible — with the core of who we are.

The devil is in the details, and most of the time it’s the small, everyday decisions that make or break us.

  1. Give my f*cks sparingly.

‘Maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a f*ck about what’s truly f*ckworthy’.

That’s why it’s so important to ask oneself one question— if any of my/their external circumstances changed (e.g. job, life style, appearance, or one person bending over backward to meet the other’s expectations), would that worsen the relationship itself? If the answer is ‘yes’, then we’re in a conditional relationship.

Although a bit of a hassle, these simple steps aren’t impossible to implement, and yet I don’t. In light of my behaviour then, am I allowed to call myself an environmentalist and preach to others they should care about the environment? Probably not.

It’s likely that the long list of the things I ‘give a f*ck about’, (using Mark Manson’s words), will naturally become shorter and that the way I define myself will also change as a result. And that’s ok.

Speaking our truth in these and many other situations will certainly upset some people, but not doing so will inevitably chip into our self-worth and deprive us of authenticity.

Those who care about YOU and not whether you meet all their expectations, will be ok with that. Everyone else you’re probably better off without.

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Business Psychologist, Life Coach & NLP Practitioner, 200hr Yoga Teacher. A firm believer that we can all be better than ‘ok’, in every area of our lives.

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Business Psychologist, Life Coach & NLP Practitioner, 200hr Yoga Teacher. A firm believer that we can all be better than ‘ok’, in every area of our lives.

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