Always kick things off with something someone super smart said

Allow me to begin by quoting Sam Harris from his excellent book on ‘spirituality without religion’, Waking Up:

I was forced to read this book at secondary school. Hopefully you were too because it’s about as beautiful as the English language gets.

Neo: “What are you trying to tell me? That I can dodge bullets?” Morpheus: “No, Neo. I’m trying to tell you that when you’re ready, you won’t have to.”

One of the best metaphors I can think of for how mindfulness works, is that scene in The Matrix where Neo, starting to realise the full extent of his power, gets up, and just says “No”, before holding his hand out in front of him, palm upwards. The bullets slow and then stop in mid-air. He then picks one out between forefinger and thumb and examines it, just for a second, before dropping it to the floor.


But it’s like really really hard though

CLEARLY I’m no brain expert but I’m reasonably confident you could accurately describe “the human mind” as an amorphous cloud of non-stop auto-biographical narrative bullshit. Usually replaying a memory of a memory that’s already been inaccurately edited from an remarkably insecure and self-centred POV. Most likely followed by a subconsciously visualised catastrophe that could theoretically happen but in all probability won’t, or practically couldn’t.

“What stands in the way becomes the way”

Abraham Lincoln suffered from depression. Like, big time. And this was back when “stress” wasn’t even recognised as a thing. But he found a way to give his “melancholy” meaning — he chose to perceive those darkest days as a something to be overcome. A temporary pain which would make him permanently stronger. And he did so without covering it up with a pretense of satisfaction or joy. When he had to feel it, he felt it.

“Another flaw in the human character is that everybody wants to build and nobody wants to do maintenance.” — Kurt Vonnegut

Yet Kurt always had an extremely well maintained moustache
It’s basically legs all the way down

Always finish on an uplifting high note

And this is genuinely important stuff. Because the only way out is nearly always through. Too narrow a focus on any single area of progress in your life means you’re ultimately unlikely to have the endurance or resilience needed to achieve your goals. Which is super mega hyper depressing.


Fine, here’s a classic 80’s power ballad that simultaneously sums up that life is tough, while also inspiring you to keep fucking fighting.

The world is starving for truth — and hard truths are the most valuable of all, if you can use them to grow



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Agnieszka Zbieranska

Agnieszka Zbieranska

Business Psychologist, Life Coach & NLP Practitioner, 200hr Yoga Teacher. A firm believer that we can all be better than ‘ok’, in every area of our lives.