Can You Change Your Attachment Style?

In short, stressful relationships are detrimental not only to our well-being, but also to our physical health.

However, we do have a choice when it comes to selecting close friends and romantic partners, but building nurturing close relationships seems even more tricky.

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Attachment Theory.

Through these early-life experiences, including the way we were treated by our parents, relatives, and first non-familial ‘others’, we unconsciously shape the way of attaching that affects our behaviour in close relationships in the adult life.

Attachment Theory In Practice.

Now, I don’t think we should use the Attachment Theory to put ourselves in one of the “attachment type boxes”. Instead, I think we should use it as a powerful tool that can enable us to better understand ourselves and others in the context of close relationships.

Secure Is The Way.

And even if your dominant style is secure, anxious, or avoidant, your behaviour is likely to change depending on who you interact with.

But what we can get from this Theory, is learning about behaviours which generally characterise the secure attachment style, and how to get closer to adopting them in real life.

Start Simple; Start Now.

  1. Know thyself and be mindful of others.
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Every relationship necessarily involves two people and, therefore, clear, constructive communication is key in ensuring that both parties can connect with one another in a secure way.

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Business Psychologist, Life Coach & NLP Practitioner, 200hr Yoga Teacher. A firm believer that we can all be better than ‘ok’, in every area of our lives.

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Agnieszka Zbieranska

Agnieszka Zbieranska

Business Psychologist, Life Coach & NLP Practitioner, 200hr Yoga Teacher. A firm believer that we can all be better than ‘ok’, in every area of our lives.

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