It only takes saying ‘yes’ to what you really want once, for the rest of your life to fall into place.
Have you ever used Hinge? If so, you will remember their clever prompts, designed to elicit insightful answers from the users and in so doing, ‘spice up’ their bios.
One of these prompts has stuck in my mind and become something I try to return to, whenever I feel lost or stuck.
‘I know I’ve made it in life when…’
The answer to this question is likely to change depending on our life circumstances, shifting priorities, and values. …
If you’re reading this, chances are that you’re already a good person. Or at least aspiring to be. At the end of the day, only an aspiring ‘good person’ would even contemplate this question.
Surprisingly, though, some of the best-natured people I know, hold a deeply ingrained belief that, somehow, they are inherently not ‘good enough’ or plain ‘bad’.
Flawed — maybe. Aren’t we all?
But bad? It takes an intention to harm, conscious maliciousness, and propensity to derive joy from the misery of others for someone to be bad. …
What I wish my twenty-year-old self had known.
My Dearest Love,
Firstly, you are not broken. The confusion and despair you sometimes feel in your inability to find purpose behind your existence, is what everyone around you feels. Befriend that feeling. It will visit you often.
It’s beautiful how stubbornly you search for that magical ‘meaning of life’. Don’t stop. It is what makes you ‘you’, even if others at times get tired of that part of your soul. It’s also the reason why they are drawn to you in the first place.
But accept the fact that perhaps the…
I’m not the biggest fan of Valentine’s Day, whether I’m in a relationship or not.
In the former scenario, it usually makes me feel like I should be doing something special on that day and put unnecessary pressure on myself and my partner, forgetting that what really counts is how we treat one another every day of the year, not just on the 14th of February.
And when I’m single, well… it just makes me feel shit to be single.
As newly single, I’d lie if I said that I didn’t find this year’s Valentine’s Day difficult. …
As discussed in our previous articles, exercise and movement are a brilliant way to battle stress — they fill your body with endorphins and take your mind away from unhelpful thoughts or behaviours. Unless you fall into extremes, whereby you start over-exercising and damaging your body (putting it under distress), there’s no real downside to exercise.
However, something that came as a surprise to me, was that actually the time of the day when you exercise can significantly increase its stress-relieving impact long term. …
As we’re approaching the end of 2019, many of us look back at the passing year, evaluating how we did, and forward into 2020, thinking of what we’d like to do differently.
If you’re like me, you probably tend to put an emphasis on all the things that didn’t go quite according to plan; and while it’s important to recognise and learn from our mishaps, over-emphasising ‘the negative’ can adversely affect your attitude in the coming months.
Our attitude, importantly, turns into thoughts which then inevitably affect how we feel, what we pay attention to, and how we behave.
While Christmas is known as ‘the season to be jolly’, it can also be exceptionally stressful for many of us.
The pressure to attend multiple parties at work and with friends (and excessive eating and drinking inevitably linked with those), financial strain associated with buying christmas gifts and covering travel costs to visit our beloved ones, lack of time, or even rekindling familial connections we’d rather stay away from, are only a few of the reasons why many of us are, in fact, secretly dreading Christmas — at least partly.
We often might be tempted to shrug the holiday pressure…
I am sorry to break it to you, but most of what you’ve learnt about stress from your parents, teachers and wellness educators probably isn’t true. I’m sure they didn’t mean to lie to you; they probably had your best interest at heart. But the truth is that the two most commonly repeated statements about stress, if taken literally, can be more fatal than an encounter with a great white shark.
These two statements are:
a. ‘Stress is bad for you’.
b. ‘Stress is good for you’.
Both of them can of course be true, depending on circumstances, but none…
One of my favourite sayings, and one that you will hear me refer to time and time again, is, ‘if you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change’. Sounds like one of those inspirational quotes on Instagram? Maybe, but its message gets quite profound in the context of managing stress.
In a 2012 longitudinal US study, researchers tracked 30,000 adults for 8 years, asking them each year how much stress they had experienced and whether they believed that stress was harmful for them. Then, after the study ended, they checked who from the whole…
Break-ups are one of the toughest experiences humans have to go through. Regardless of how long the relationship was, how amicably the two people parted, or who initiated it, break-up can leave us confused, irritated, and depressed for a long period of time, questioning our sense of self, loveability, and concept of love in general.
Business Psychologist, Life Coach & NLP Practitioner, 200hr Yoga Teacher. A firm believer that we can all be better than ‘ok’, in every area of our lives.